Archive for the ‘Eating’ Category

The Pendulum
February 8, 2010

The Zen of pendulum swingingEver feel like you’re trying too hard but not sustaining the results you desire?  There’s a very good reason for that.  Quite often in life we tend to go all or nothing and thus goes the swinging of the pendulum.  I found in the past when I would try to “diet” that I would be so strict and exercise so intensely that after several weeks I would inevitably burn out and ultimately quit.  I would have drug my metabolism so low that when I reintroduced the no-so-healthy foods back into my life, I would gain all the weight right back and then some.  Now, as Forrest Gump says, “I am not a smart man….” but I do know this is no way to release weight. (more…)


Overeaters Anonymous Turns 50
January 19, 2010

It was 50 years ago today that Rozanne S. and two other women got together for the first time an started Overeater’s Anonymous.

Based on a traditional 12 step program like AA, OA utilizes the same steps but applies them to eating disorders, including overeating, anorexia, bulimia and binge eating.  One can go to the OA website and find a meeting almost anywhere, almost anytime and there will be an entire community of people there to assist you with similar type problems. (more…)

Practice, Practice, Practice
December 14, 2009

These kids are amazing.  It goes to show what we are capable if we stick to something.  When I started my journey of weight release, I was not very good at making all the right choices and I didn’t exercise all that much.  I actually only did a couple of things right, but it was enough to get me to the next level and the next and the next until I had come a very long way.

The things that once seemed difficult to me, now seem quite simple, but you have to work at it and practice.  Eating right and exercising is a skill and like any other skill, it grows stronger with use.

So never give up and you will reach all of your goals, physical or otherwise.


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Go Slow on Turkey Day
November 25, 2009

Well, Thanksgiving is a wonderful day.  It should always remind us to be grateful for what we have and who we have in our lives.

I’m not going to sit here and knock you in the head with a bunch of tips on how to not eat so much food on thanksgiving, but I do want to talk about eating mindfully, and enjoying your friends and family’s company.

Mindful eating means really taking the time to slow down and appreciate what has been prepared for you.  I know that millions of people across the country are working very hard to provide us all with a delicious meal to let us know how much they love us.

If nothing else, let us take the time to really enjoy it and eat it slow and keep our focus on all of the things we have to be grateful for.  This is one thing that I’ve come to appreciate through my transformational journey.

And how about this (ok, so I am going to give you one tip), how about suggesting a nice leisurely walk after the meal is over (and cleaned up…guys).  It’s a great tradition.

That’s all I wanted to say.  Have a great day, enjoy yourself and like my great-grandmother used to say “Take care of one another”. (yes, she meant your in-laws, too)



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Over? Nothing is over until we decide it is.
November 24, 2009

Ok, so trust me, I’ve been there before.  I was at the point where I just didn’t know if I had one more attempt in me to keep going and try again.  I remember one time when trying to do an intense 12 week program thinking to myself, “This is it.  If I don’t make it this time, I’m just not gonna make it.  I’ll go through the rest of my life this way because I can’t handle the disappointment of another failure. My spirit has a limit to what it can take.” (more…)

Top 10 Tips on Mindful Eating
November 21, 2009

Daddy says I've mastered mindful eating!

(Stonyfield emailed me and totally dug this photo, clearly we endorse this product, or can you tell?  🙂

“What’s that?  I couldn’t hear you, Lost is on…would you please wait until a commercial, I think Hurley found some more peanut butter hidden under a palm tree.” (as a half dozen pieces of buttered popcorn fall to the couch staining your shirt on their decent)

Mindful eating is all about staying in the moment.  Of course, this is good advice all day long, but I’m specifically talking about being present when you are eating.

One of the obstacles I had to overcome was to be aware of when and how much I was eating.  When I started out, I was a fast eater.  I could get through two plates before you finished your salad, quicker than a buzz cut 19-year-old fresh out of boot camp.  (more…)

What if you make a mistake?
November 14, 2009

Bradley Hightower

Just be cool...It'll be alright.

You know, sooner or later, we’ll all mess up.  Welcome to the human experience.  It’s bound to happen.   It’s natural and it’s ok.  It’s all a part of the process.  We have to make mistakes to learn from them and move on and grow.  The problem comes in when people make a mistake, like eat something they shouldn’t have or a bunch of somethings they shouldn’t have or perhaps go on a 2 week bender adhering to a strict regimen of food and alcohol…no matter what it is, the problem comes in when we don’t forgive ourselves and get into a self loathing mindset.   It was this kind of behavior that keeps us overweight and I’m not so much talking about the mistake, its the thinking.  In the big picture, that chocolate brownie sundae will be long gone in a day but it’s your mind that keeps telling you you suck and you shouldn’t even bother.   Well you don’t suck…you are a beautiful piece of universal creation, perfect in every way.  You have everything you need right inside of you.  The journey to health is a return trip from where you started.  You don’t have to add to the person you are, just take away the things you’re not….and you are not your mistakes and you are definitely not that triple layer double chocolate devil’s fudge pound cake…you are a perfect creation, so forget the mistake, allow yourself to forgive yourself and get back out there and start again.  Mistakes are part of the process, and it’s the process or the journey that it’s all about.

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Pick a subject, any subject
November 13, 2009

Hey everyone.  I’ve gotten some really great feedback from many of you and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.  So long as you guys think I should keep going, I will.  Perhaps you could tell me what subjects you’d like to talk about….


2.  Nutrition

3. Getting your mind right

4.  Getting past a plateau

5.  Motivation vs. Inspiration  or anything else you’d like to talk about.

Let me know…I’ve got so much to say and am not sure where to start.

I love you all.  You are supporting my dream and I will do my best to ensure you get where you want with your health.



Start Slow, Speedracer
November 12, 2009

Lose weight(this is our new baby, nothing to do with the blog, but isn’t she cute?)

Now you have to understand, I’ve tried, sometimes successfully, sometimes not to lose weight and get in shape no less than 100 times in the past (could be more, don’t really want to think about it).  Here was my standard protocol,

1. go grocery shopping, buy a ton of good food

2. make sure my gym membership is up to date so they don’t flag me when they see this stranger come in,

3. Get a diet/exercise log going

4. proceed to punish the hell out of my body as penance for all my bad deeds

5. usually make it about 14 days on a Body for Life sprint, (that’s a good run) only to fall flat on my face at which point I end up feeling like more of a failure than I ever did when I started.

So here’s where I was at.  I couldn’t go through that again.  Now, I don’t mean that I didn’t feel like it, I meant I really couldn’t do it.  I was at the point where I said to myself, I guess this is just as good as it gets and I should just learn to accept it.  No, we have to keep trying…somewhere in the echoes of my mind I could still hear Tony Robbins saying to me “you don’t fail unless you stop trying”…ok Tony, what’s not perfect, yet?  You’re fat, brother, that’s what’s not perfect!  My inner dialog kept going (I know nobody else out there talks to themselves like this, right?) Well, IF I was going to take another whack at this, what would I do?  What would it be like?  Better yet, if this experience could be anyway I wanted it to be, what would that look like?  Well, as long as we’re having fun with this, I thought, I said, “If it could be anyway, I would have it be easy”.  Now I know what you may be thinking, this is not easy, right?  Well, I just entertained the possibility.  I asked myself, “If it were easy, where would you start?” (more…)